» End patterns of self abandoning in love e.g. striving and earning for love, silencing your own needs, over functioning and caretaking for men

» Address and heal any father wound, masculine wounds and restore your heart towards men

» Learn how to identify your needs and wants; to identify your ‘yes’ and ‘no’ and have the confidence to voice these using feminine communication that ignites his healthy masculinity rather than controls him

» Illuminate where your heart is hard from past pain and trauma, heal the parts of your soul where darkness has tried to dwell and become a woman who is both soft and strong - without being closed, protected or icy to men or collapsing

» Understand your patterns with men and why you attract the men you do and BREAK THIS PATTERN to finally receive the man and love you want (or heal your current relational dynamic!) eg. the little boy who you caretake and mother; or the traumatised man who you over empathise with and rescue him; or the tyrant who wants to control you and leaves you feeling unsafe ; or the passive ‘Ahab’ man who is forcing you to lead him; or the man who won’t fully commit, yet you keep devoting to him, waiting for one day…

» Lovingly address anger and rage - find the root cause to why this pattern may be coming up and heal this so you can utilise righteous anger in a divine and holy way, no longer for destruction, word curses or speaking death

» Learn from many women of the bible how to embody the fullness of your womanhood and your holy mantle beyond a reductionist ‘trad wife’ culture

» Embody mutual respect and mutual love to build a relationship centred on Christ

» Embody a 1 Cortinthians 13 style love - without being walked over or fawning to men

» Rightful mature feminine responsibility: Identify what is yours to own and what is his to own - so you can actually see change in your love life. Most women get fixated on him and go around in circles and nothing changes!

» Learn how to emotionally self hold with God as your cornerstone; so you don’t act emotionally chaotic or destruction when hurt or angry.

» Learn how to actually respect a man

» Know the difference in respect (given); trust (earnt) and access (earnt) and assess your current relational situation to discern levels of access to you, your body and time and energy. Your devotion and access needs to reflect his commitment.

» Communicate from a revealed feminine heart and clarity in a way that ignites his masculine leadership

» See yourself as a leader too and own your rightful feminine domains (e.g. home, children, your mission, your body)

» Stop being a passive lady in waiting, get radically honest with your life situation and prayfully discern the best next step to move forward in courage and love

» Develop spirit sight - stop viewing this world and your relationship from a material lens only and gain spiritual discernment and how to move in the spirit

» Declare and know “I am fearfully and wonderfully made” psalm 139 so stop trying to be feminine and instead embrace the unique feminine blueprint that is YOU and is magnetic

» Be a powerful woman who moves forward in life without being ‘masculine’ or holding yourself back due to fear of being masculine and distorted teachings around being a “follower”

» Step out of the victim, villain and hero drama cycle and walk boldy in your spiritual authority.

» Prepare for your beautiful, polarised union before you meet him as you begin to ready yourself for wifehood now, including discerning what God is showing you is the best move for you - no cookie cutter single strategy here, love.

» Build your union and kingdom marriage with intentionality, love - you don’t find a great union, you build one

» Understand the power and gift of your feminine influence on your union and man and how to gift him your feminine radiance - which ignites his masculinity in a way that serves you both.

» Heal from past hurt and let go of bitterness. Bitterness is a rotten fruit which needs forgiveness so it doesn’t ruin your relationship or heart

» Heal from purity culture or sexual liberation without shame, condemnation or repression - rediscover your healthy erotic expression and how to enjoy sex within covenant

» Understand the difference in trying to change your man (bad for you both) and instead how to create an environment that enhances and supports his healthy masculinity to bloom

» Accept what is about the man in front of you and stop living in fantasy about him

» Accept your feminine and female biology - so you stop thinking you can be a mini man and finally allow yourself to be held, cherished and supported. End patterns of exhaustion

» Mature from the collapsed little girl who needs rescuing and ‘princess energy’ to royal queen energy - the divine counterpart for the King man you really want

» learn how to respect and honour your triune nature as woman - your body, your soul (mind will and emotions) and your spirit.

» learn how to attune to your body and use your body as a wonderful resource and data point (which then leads to an overflow of feminine radiance, as a radiant woman is IN-HER body). Stop demonising your body as bad or sinful (neither exalting is as god).

» Understand the “flesh” actually is; what sin and repentance actually is and break free of enemy lies that condemn your past (especially for women who have come to Christ later in life, are single mamas or divorced)

» Understand spiritual warfare and how to war in prayer and the spirit for your union and family

» Be peacemaker not a peacekeeper - peacemaking requires boundaries, boldness and Godly righteousness; peace keeping is people pleasing

» Release the fear of man, and hold holy reverence of God (aka heal the good girl)

» understand how to be an helpmeet in the fullness of the original word EZER - divine strategic counterpart and heal any false beliefs this makes you lessor than as I help you to understand what scripture truly says

» understand ‘those verses’ around submission and headship so you can discern the right Godly relational model for your union - free of legalism and fear

» learn how to nurture, respect and love your man without mothering or controlling him

» stop caretaking men, stop over functioning and how to do ‘less fixing’ and micromanaging in the relationship to receive more

» stop relating from wounded parts which use ineffective strategies like avoidance, silence, withdraw love, overly emotional, rage or manipulation to try and ‘get’ love and instead show up from your mature womanhood, advocate for your needs, know when to speak, when to let God move

» understand submission in a way that is life-giving and honours you, your beloved and God

» make requests and share your needs with a man from a place that works with his male brain and biology

» identify when a man is unsafe for you by understanding the difference in benevolent leadership, dominance, power and control - and how to trust the cues of your body which are coming from the holy spirit

» strategies to support your nervous system to be resilient and robust and find ‘home’ in the moments of love, motherhood and relational tension

» make God your first love, how to lean on God in times of stress, fighting, loneliness etc so you don’t become desperate for love

» develop a strategy for your season of your love life - e.g. defining what you want and need in a man and how to vett for the appropriate man for you, hold higher standards and attract better quality men

» address patterns in your love life so they can be disrupted and build a healthy, passionate and connected relationship

» ‘leave and cleave’ your family of origin so patterns of pain and trauma end with you

» learn how to ‘lean back’ without game playing but by knowing you are already chosen, cherished and love

» trust in God, walk in Faith for the divine unfolding of your life and maintain radical hope during seasons of hardship and setback or transition or grief